In the past, many families in Thai society often relied on the culture of raising children with authority, combined with the foundation of children respecting their parents. Many families therefore take this opportunity to exercise power over their children, including using violence (such as hitting) to create a sense of deterrence. Although it may seem like a small thing for adults, for small children it will become an ingrained memory, causing many children to be afraid, not daring to express their opinions, not daring to do things, which will have long-term effects even when they grow up.

This is completely opposite to positive parenting, which uses love, understanding, and praise to encourage children. These methods are also good for developing the relationship between parenting and children.

With the principles of positive parenting, it emphasizes promoting the analytical brain to work, which can be divided into 3 parts: the thinking brain (positive brain), the emotional brain (mid-brain), and the instinctive brain (lower brain), which will help them grow up to be intelligent children who know how to think and dare to express themselves without having to scold or hit them. สมัคร UFABET วันนี้ รับเครดิตฟรีสำหรับสมาชิกใหม่ With the principles of positive parenting, it emphasizes promoting the analytical brain to work, which can be divided into 3 parts: the thinking brain (positive brain), the emotional brain (mid-brain), and the instinctive brain (lower brain), which will help them grow up to be intelligent children who know how to think and dare to express themselves without having to scold or hit them.

The 10 positive parenting techniques are as follows:

1. Be a good role model.

The best teaching is “being a good example” for children. In the eyes of parents, they may think that their children are still young and do not understand anything. But in fact, children secretly observe their parents’ behavior. The things that parents do or say, children have already recorded in their memories.

For example, if parents want their children to say “thank you,” parents should say it first and consistently so that children can analyze and conclude that this is the right thing to do and the right thing to do.

2. Use reason in raising them.

Because children are still very young, there are still many things in the world that they don’t know yet, and they may do things without realizing it. Parents who have experienced more in life should stay calm, be patient, and talk to their children with reason. If children still don’t understand what they’ve done wrong, parents should talk to them in a gentle manner and explain the events from the beginning so that children can think about it, and explain what was wrong and what they shouldn’t have done, and what is the right thing to do. 

3. Avoid criticizing small matters.

As mentioned, since children are still young, there are still many things they need to learn. However, sometimes if the child makes a small mistake, parents can just let it go.

Because criticizing your child in every wrongdoing will make them feel like they are always being held accountable, which affects their thinking and makes them not dare to do anything and just wait for their parents to order them. This also affects their development in learning and creativity.

4. Keep your promises.

Based on the principle of parents “keeping their promises”, it is a process that creates “trust” for their children and creates a good memory for them as well.

For example, if they promise to take a child out in the evening, they should keep their word and do so. This will help them learn what it means to keep a promise, and it will make teaching them things easier. For example, whenever a parent says that if they don’t eat for 30 minutes, they will clean up, the child learns that when the time is up, they will definitely clean up.

5. Teach to understand others.

Because each person is different, whether in terms of race, culture, and language, teaching them to understand others is one of the first steps in positive parenting that parents should instill in their children. Because teaching children to understand others will make them understand the basics of being human, knowing how to put themselves in other people’s shoes, and what children don’t like, they shouldn’t do to others. It may start with people in the home, such as parents first. For example, if children don’t like their parents to use their emotions with them, then parents don’t like it when children use their emotions with them either.

6. Let him use his own ideas.

It is normal for parents and children to disagree on certain issues on some days. If this is the case, ask your child why they think that way and what they would do if they were in the same situation. Then, explain to your child what the positive and negative consequences would be if they did that. This encourages your child to think and analyze together.

7. Watch sincerely.

Many families think that “praising children” will make children arrogant. In fact, praising children appropriately is an encouragement for children. Children will know their own worth and respect themselves. They will see that they are important to their parents. When parents see their children happy, it is another way to make the family happy.

8. Listen attentively.

The little things of children in many matters may be exciting for them. Or even whenever children come to consult with problems, parents should stop their other activities for a while and listen to their children attentively. Listen to the child’s words until the end. Do not interrupt while the child is talking. But may nod in response to the child from time to time. This will make the child feel that the parents care about him and are always ready to listen to him. It makes him dare to think, dare to do, and dare to express himself more.

9. Admit your mistakes.

Because no one does everything right, and no one does everything wrong. Even parents can make mistakes. Apologizing to your child is not embarrassing, but it will teach your child to dare to do, dare to accept, know how to apologize, and be ready to make amends.

10. Teach him to be optimistic.

Optimism is not deceiving yourself. And optimism is teaching your children to choose to see the good in even the bad days. Optimism is one of the best ways to encourage yourself. Because many times, we find that other people who feel discouraged or hopeless in life often do so because they blame themselves, are not able to forgive themselves, and see the world in a negative way.